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IMG_1008Do you ever wonder if what you’re wearing now, be it clothes or your personal coiffure or that bearded look you new age gents sport, will one day be scoffed at? Of course not. Everybody’s doing it, now.

At one time everybody wore a mullet or had the “big hair” or a mustache and at the time, the possibility that one day it would be mocked was the farthest thing from our minds. It was cool. Guess what? We do laugh at the mullet now. “Business in the front. Party in the back.” Chuckle.

What was once “cool” is no longer cool anymore. Yesterday’s mullet is likely today’s beard. Guys it’s all been done before. Sideburns were cool once upon a time too.

If there’s one consistent, guys loved the mini skirt in the sixties and despite its comings and goings they still love it today.

The Primary Election is coming to my state, Illinois next week and we are being bombarded with ads from the candidates.

In case you are lucky enough and haven’t experienced these ads, they almost ALL can be boiled down to these two simple buzz words that the political pundits have decided are “winners.”

First, these candidates will “take on” anything. They’ll “take on” anything from the NRA to the NBA to the BK Big Fish Sandwich if it will get your vote.

AND they’ll “fight” for your rights, at least until they get elected. Then, they’ll ”fight” with each other and “take on” nothing in your interest but their cushy job with a government pension, which by the way is OK for them but not for their constituency.

Now I know why it’s called “Super Tuesday.” Because it will be “Super” when the election is over and I don’t have to hear their negative, mudslinging, shallow unoriginal ads anymore.

But here’s a campaign speech that inspires me:

“What we need in the United States is not division; what we need in the United States is not hatred; what we need in the United States is not violence and lawlessness, but is love, and wisdom, and compassion toward one another, and a feeling of justice toward those who still suffer within our country, whether they be white or whether they be black.”

This is an excerpt from a speech from Robert Kennedy delivered on April 4 in 1968, nearly 48 years ago in Indianapolis on the day Martin Luther King Jr. was assassinated. Here’s the speech in case you never heard it before:

Sadly, while the styles have changed and our hair and our looks and our fashion has changed over the years, our attitudes seem to have not changed in likewise fashion. What RFK spoke about in 1968 STILL exists today in 2016.

Still exists.

With tears in my eyes, I cannot find the right words to understand or explain why this division, this polarization is still going on. “Nobody’s right if everybody’s wrong … it’s time we STOP, hey what’s that sound, everybody look what’s going down.”

FOOTNOTE: Sometimes it’s no fun to have to explain it, but sometimes if you don’t explain it, nobody gets it. The staircase photo cover represents, “Look what’s going down.”

Just this evening, I was out for a walk and about to cross the street when a car approached the intersection. The driver stopped and waved me on. Hmm, I wondered. Are there ulterior motives?

While he did have a stop sign and according to the Rules of the Road was indeed required to stop and yield, two thoughts passed through my mind.

1) Alas, there remains a courteous person in the world willing to defer to a poor pedestrian soul who attempts to cross the street.

2) Is this dude is setting me up for the hit and run. It’s a crazy world out there these days. One never knows.

In this instance, I opted to trust the driver and ventured into the crosswalk. Fortunately, it was number one, a chivalrous driver did indeed exist out there. I began to cross the street unharmed.

Now in such situations, I do something called the “courtesy walk.” Here’s how it goes. After you are reasonable confident the driver does not intend to pick you off in the crosswalk, you:

1) Smile and nod and proceed to cross.

2) Give a friendly wave and while that arm is coming down, you begin to swing it in an animated fashion while your other arm starts making the same running motion. Try to give it a three second trot. This lets the driver know you have acknowledged his magnanimous gesture and wish to impose no extra time on his commute.

You don’t even have to really move any faster. Sometimes, I just move my arms up and down in that animated running motion as I cross the walk while not actually moving any faster. This casts the illusion that I am moving quicker for the consideration extended, while not actually picking up the pace.

It’s somewhat akin to the courtesy wave you give a driver when he lets you merge into his lane when an unforeseen construction lane closure approaches. Please tell me you do the courtesy wave. It’s the least you can do. I get annoyed when I let a car into the lane in front of me and the driver skips the courtesy wave. Everyone please give the courtesy wave.

(Speaking of courtesy, when you are in a multiple stalled bathroom and well, without getting too graphic. just give the toilet a courtesy flush after your masterpiece in consideration of others in the room. It’s the right thing to do.)

But, back to the courtesy walk. If any of you loyal readers recognize this theme, it was my very first post on Wedwand back on April 10, 2013, some 210 posts and 6,503 views ago.

Today, I had no ideas for a post, but coincidentally, I was the driver in the car this time, and not once but twice I let a pedestrian cross my path and each time, they did a version of the courtesy walk. And, I thought to myself, hey, maybe I invented that.

So like so many music pieces and movies, I decided to digitally remaster my original post. OK, it is simply revised and not remastered and it’s not digital at all. But I will include the original cover photo from that April day in Antioch near my sister’s house where Wedwand was born.

I appreciate your support over these nearly three years of uninterrupted posts. I’d like to thank my mother who has since passed for being a driving inspiration to pursue this venture. Sometimes, I wonder why I do it, but if Wedwand brings a smile to your face or invokes a thought or just makes you forget about your daily cares and worries for a while, then my mission is accomplished.